Relationships are hard and if you are one of the lucky few to find yourself together for yet another year, take Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to celebrate your bond, while kicking things up a notch in the bedroom. Don’t miss out on novel experiences, because sex is the adult version of playing in the sandbox. 

However, when it comes to shopping for intimate gifts, it can feel overwhelming. There’s a lot of junk out there, including products that contain toxic ingredients for the vaginal microbiome, green-washing and lack efficacy. Fun fact: most drug-store lubricants contain glycerin, a sugar that disrupts the vaginal microbiome, causing an overgrowth of yeast and irritations. So, it is important to read the label. 

Luckily, Rythm reads the label for you, by taking an ingredient forward approach to offer safer intimacy essentials. They work with a Clinical Board of Doctors across a Sexual Medicine Nurse Practitioner, a Naturopathic Doctor and Sex Therapist to curate tools, topicals and supplements to make you feel good both in and out of the bedroom. Founded by a BIPOC female who previously worked in the sexual wellness industry. Here is our round up on the best 14 intimate gifts to buy to spice things up, naturally. Ranked in order of use to optimize pleasure in the bedroom and strengthen your vagina-mind-spirit connection.  

1:  In Tune, Card Game for Couples by Therapists

Developed by therapists, In Tune takes your relationship deeper by combining both emotional and physical intimacy into one deck. This includes childhood memories, belief systems, sex life and communication skills. Made for all genders and sexual preferences, date night just got a lot more fun. 

2:  Doing it better Rythm Socks

The perfect gift to drift into deeper slumber and orgasms. Science has it that wearing socks during sex helps deepen orgasms by creating a sense of safety within your body. Rythm’s Doing it Better socks are one size fits all to help bring out an extra skip in your step.

3: Bloomi, Desire Pleasure Oil

Developed by a sexologist, Desire Pleasure Oil is laced with damiana, cinnamon, passionflower and nutmeg. This proprietary blend of herbs acts as an aphrodisiac by promoting blood flow, calming the nervous system and enhancing sensations. Bring back the fireworks.

4: Maude, Massage Candle Burn 03

Set the tone of the evening with Burn No. 3 Massage Candle. Drizzled with fresh notes of eucalyptus, sandalwood, cassis and haitian vetiver. Pour hot, body safe wax on your bodies for sensation play. Made with skin-softening Jojoba oil and Soybean oils.

5: Ka Empathogenics, Kanna Chews

Kanna has been clinically proven to activate an immediate sense of grounded energy, helping people feel more alive, connected and capable as they navigate everyday stress*. Known in South Africa as the "heart opener" shamanic herb in ceremonies for connection.

6: Personal Fav, Whet Sex Serum

Clinically studied, this water-based, plant-based sex serum mimics your own natural lubrication. It provides hydration and moisture for when you don’t feel “ready” yet. Safe to use with all sex toys, making it a great addition to other intimate gifts.

7: Uberlube

Silicone based lubricant, also known as the ultimate glider in the bedroom to allow for experimentation of novel positions, and wild nights, friction free. Designed to be non-sticky, latex safe, and drizzled with Vitamin E. 

8: Mate, Ignite

Don’t let male ED hold you back and rise to the occasion this Valentine’s Day. Also known as a natural viagra, Ignite makes it easy to get hard and stay hard for when it matters most. Backed by science and physician-formulated. 

9: Mate, Climax

Finish with a bang! Cross the finish line with mate climax, the all-natural, physician-formulated delayed ejaculation supplement that will help you reach the grand finale with a bang, naturally. 

10: Wile, Women Libido Drops

Get out of your head and into your body. Unique pre-play tincture calms the distractions that block our desire, while creating a deeply relaxed, receptive state of body and mind. Designed by a naturopathic physician with maca and other plant ingredients. 

11: Dame, Aer Suction Toy

This list of intimate gifts wouldn’t be complete without this little sucker. Aer is a powerful arousal tool for vulva havers who enjoy oral stimulation. It uses airflow technology creating thrilling pulses of air and a soft seal around your clitoris. One size fits all with 5 vibe patterns. A must have for steamy foreplay that gets you there in half the time. 

12: Dame, Pom Vibe

Pom has a big and bendy personality, designed to fit perfectly in between your palm. It provides broad or targeted stimulation with 4 patterns and is best used externally for clitoral stimulation as well as a tease by dipping the tip inside the vagina. 

13: Dame, Arc G Spot Vibe

Explore the ins and outs of the vagina with Arc G Spot. This vibrator allows you to discover your pleasure and body. Made with medical-grade silicone, bendy and curved in just the right places to make you feel feelings. 

14: Sex Kitten Glass G Spotter

Known as a favorite amongst Intimacy & Empowerment Coaches, Sex Kitten Glass G Spotter can be heated up or cooled down for temperature play. It’s the perfect tool for when a vibrator feels like too much. Poke around to discover your G or P spot.

H2: Don’t play dirty. 

Keeping your body and toys clean before and after sex is essential personal health care! (And um, polite.) After we get it on, it’s essential to get stuff off that could lead to irritation or infection––such as bodily fluids, condom lube, and bacteria that may have hitchhiked from one hole to another.

Using a TUSHY bidet attachment effectively cleans your entire bottom in seconds with fresh water and no chemicals. Use it on the down low to spruce up before getting lucky AND immediately after to soothe your booty after a rough romp. You dog.